It has been suggested by one of the meager handful of people I respect, that a previous post was a little too sexist. (Objectifying women, double standard… blah blah blah, you get the idea.)
So, in the spirit of the New more touchie-feelie Bittermac, I took some sensitivity training.
Or at least 10 minutes of it. (Go to Youtube and search “Sensitivity training”. Watch a few of those, you will be suicidal inside of 5 minutes.)
Aside from reaffirming that we are becoming a nation of metro-sexual pussies, I found 3 common points in both the training videos and the videos from women about sensitivity and sexism.
- Most sensitivity training goes against human nature and is loosely based on the premise that you should never offend anyone and float thru life on butterfly wings. (All of these videos are conducted by guys that were chosen last in every sport, cheated on by their wives and end up getting raped in prison for tax evasion. Side note- They are in prison for tax evasion, the rape is just part of the amenities.)
- The women that post reaction videos to applaud and affirm the training videos start off by demanding that it be an even playing field. By the end of their video-rants, they are usually wanting to spin the whole thing around to a female dominated/male being shit on playing field. (The bitter side of me applauds their thirst for blood, but it would set the scene for these exact kinds of videos being made by the guys in another decade.)
- Nobody seems to have the same agenda. Several of the training videos and the reaction videos took the point of view of sexual abuse, several attacked racism, a few attacked inherited wealth. (Interesting mix, its a forest for the trees. Stop arguing about what kind of trees they are. They are TREES, lets move on.)
So, once again I find myself sitting in my comfy chair up in my ivory tower, seeing the people and their flaws.
And here is what I have for you:
Let it go.
Jesus Christ, people! Life is unfair, always has been, and its not changing any time soon.
If you are a woman, men are going to be unfair to you in the workplace.
If you are a man, men in higher positions will be unfair to you in the workplace.
If you are a short man, women on dating sites will openly discriminate against you.
If you are poor, the rich will discriminate against you when it comes to money.
If you are rich, the government will discriminate against you for having money.
If you draw breath on this planet, someone will take advantage of that situation for their own personal gain.
The whole thing boils down to human nature.
Human beings instinctively strive to better their own situation.
Some do it in an almost brutally selfish fashion, while others are wildly selfless in their approach.
Think of the Clintons on one end and Mother “Saint” Theresa on the other.
And we are all in between.
The vast majority spend their time hiding their own activities and decrying the actions of others.
Me? I am an open book.
Kind of like a tawdry sex novel that gets you a little hot and bothered, but shocks you with how out of your comfort zone you get.
Intriguing, can’t put it down fascinating, but leaves you feeling a little dirty in the end.
Most people wander thru life with this child-like belief system that remains unexamined from the moment it was given to them till the day they die.
Here is the basic truth.
Do your best not to shit on people if its not necessary, be a good person when you can, limit your asshole instincts when you can and hopefully, when the shit hits the fan, you have banked enough goodwill that there are a few hands to help when you need it.
I will not mention Karma here, you all know my opinions on that. (Seriously, if karma worked even a quarter of the time, we would not need laws. They say karma’s a bitch. I agree. A lazy bitch that rarely pulls its own weight.)
I will leave you with a quote from Hunter S. Thompson “I understand that fear is my friend, but not always. Never turn your back on Fear. It should always be in front of you, like a thing that might have to be killed.“ (Not the original quote I wanted, but this one caught my eye and it is golden.)