It can be difficult, raising an adult child.
And I am not referring to a child that is late teens or early 20’s.
I mean the one you married.
There is a couple in Starbucks that fit this little scenario.
Lets call him Workman
And Workman looks exhausted.
Like, working 3 jobs type exhausted.
He swills coffee like a man trying to jumpstart his battered and spirit-broken heart.
Like he either wants a caffeine rush or a coronary, either one will do.
And sittlng across from him is a little honey we will call Babs.
Babs has that alert but useless look to her.
Just had her nails, hair, clothes, you names it, this leech has had it done by a professional recently.
And Workman is on the hook for indulging “Daddy’s girl”.
5 minutes of listening in fleshes out the story.
They both had solid careers.
And then she lay prone one evening and conceived.
Once the baby was born, an ugly cycle began.
The stay at home mom was born.
Don’t get me wrong, when your kidlets are wee ones, someone who shares the same blood should be with them, 24 7.
However, Babs and Workman’s kidlet just went back to college from the Xmas break.
And Babs is talking about getting involved with a ladies group for an “Event”.
Here’s why I am a psychic, watch me predict the future.
I know nothing about Bab’s, the other ladies involved, or the “Event”, but I will make a little prediction.
1. It will cost Workman money. (This one is a gimme, but I have taken an instant dislike to Babs and feel the need to point it out.)
2. It will not accomplish anything substantial in the real world. (By this I mean, if it is not completely obvious to anyone that sees it and requires anything that resembles an explanation.)
3. It will be little more than an ego stroke for a gaggle of well monied, useless house fraus from the beach cities. (Kind of like the human version of a Lamprey. A fish that attaches itself to other fish and eats the scraps.)
This annoys the crap out of me. Its like having a permanent house guest that will never leave, pick up a check, but will bitch at you about how little respect she gets.
However, its a common story, you know 3 or 4 Babs in your daily life, we all do.
Workman is stuck, raising the adult child.
And this is not a sexist thing, for every Babs, there is a Bob. (Male version of Babs)
I think recognition of who the Babs and Bobs in our lives are is sexist.
Men can only see Babs, but the Bobs are invisible to them.
Women can only see Bobs, and cannot see Babs at all.
And both are convinced that the others are lazy pieces of shit.
Sad thing is, they are both right.
There is a saying about marriage, you either grow together or you grow apart.
But what if one of you grows lazy, while the other one grows overworked and tired.
Eventually the Workman of the couple will either grow a lawyer or a coronary.
And really, both are preferable.
There is a reason why children grow up before you get sick of handling all of it.
Now imagine a child that never grows up, you end up “handling it” forever, but the child will bitch about how tired they are of the lack of respect for their “position” in the household.
You might be tempted to say that this is from my perspective and that I am transferring it onto Workman and Babs.
Its equal parts taken from their conversation, a little poetic license and the final part is my love of the annoying extreme.
And the fact that I don’t like Babs.
Makes me wonder what Workman sees in that leech.