Its not just a tea party.

23 Jul

What is it about the mall that seems to show me the oddest look in the wierdest situations?

I am looking at one hard dude.

Tatted out like its his job, some on his face. Shaved head. Big baggy shorts hanging past his ass.

Serious gang banger look going on.

And he is playing peek a boo with his daughter.

When you have a little girl, a part of you changes.

With a son, you can still play Mr. tough guy, but with a little girl, you will be baby talking at one point or another.

Kids do change you, and that is not a bad thing.

Change can be good.

And not that Hope and Change banner to fool the proles.

Actual change.

You understand what kind of change when you are squatted down on a tiny chair having a tea party with a little flower hat on your head.

You are Mrs. Nesbit

A man’s perspective about women change, one way or the other.

They either treat women differently or they become constant titty bar patrons that view all women as whores.

Although the word whore is a little passe.

Reminds me of the word slut.

That is from high school.

Slut is a term girls use to hurt other girls, and guys used in both a good and bad way.

Out of high school, I do not believe the term slut is valid.

Once a woman is an adult, she is empowered and knows what she wants.

However, Facebook seems to bring out the high school shit head in a LOT of people.

I actually had someone text me and ask if I had heard that someone was “Talking shit” about them.

Are you kidding me?

The statement in and of itself is something a 13 year old should be embarrassed by.

And yet, it was definitely not the first time I had heard it.

The really odd thing about it, is that people call it ‘being childish”.

But even children behave better than this.

I keep thinking about the little girl, playing peek a boo with her gang banger father.

She is better behaved than the majority.

So, if everyone starts out the same as children, what happened to all of us?

I wasn’t born this vile and cynical.

I got here, but I don’t know how I got here.

The question is, how do you get back to there?

If your kids are grown, how do you get back to being Mrs. Nesbit?

What is needed is a paradigm shift without a clutch.

Free your ass and your mind will follow.

Funny line, but whats it mean?

It means stop taking yourself so serious.

Stop and smell the roses.

For some, it involves finding out where there are roses in order to stop and smell.

I realize this sounds like effort, and some people hesitate at the thought of it.

The only effort they want to make is to post simple headed platitudes on Facebook along with a plea for reposting.

Never lose sight of the fact that charity begins at home.

Inside your own head.




Posted by on July 23, 2012 in Uncategorized


4 responses to “Its not just a tea party.

  1. Ol Rube

    July 23, 2012 at 10:12 am

    Come out to Casa Blanca in Riverside where gangs go back generations. 1% of Riverside is one gang. You won’t find redemption in children. They are mirrors of your best and worst self, and they will hate you and love you for it. Dying to self is the lifelong way out. Modeling that dying to self to your children is our hope. I am not there, and nowhere near it.

    • Bittermac

      July 23, 2012 at 10:32 am

      Your comment took a few readings to catch all of the import. Powerful, insightful, nakedly honest. Thanks.

      • Bittermac

        July 23, 2012 at 10:42 am

        You’ve got me thinking now. I think my shock or surprise at his actions was that, whether he was feeling it or not, the daughter put him in that place for that specific moment in time. That as hard as he came across, she made him step over to that vulnerability.

      • Ol Rube

        July 23, 2012 at 12:56 pm

        I was going back and forth between dying to self and charity. Charity in my understanding is an action. Dying to self, much like the command to love your neighbor as yourself yields countless acts of charity. I agree with your thoughts. Thanks for the post. Good things to ponder at the beginning of the week!


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