I have a friend who is recently divorced and said she was shocked at how guys are just a bunch of horny dicks now.
I am shocked to find out we were something else back when. Or maybe that was just me.
She was at a local watering hole and met a guy, made an innocent comment that he took in the worst way and proceeded to stalk her for the rest of the night.
I had to take a long moment to understand, or at least try.
And in the end, I had to agree with her, even though it took me a little while longer to get there.
I’m sorry, throw anything resembling dirty or a go ahead at me in a bar when I have a drink in me, and I become a vicious combination of a drink-buying Daddy Warbucks and a horny dog that will follow your around and hump your leg all night.
I think it all breaks down to this.
Its the same sentence for both of us.
Women love sex.
Only to men, it looks like this
Women love SEX
Women, however, see it like this:
Women LOVE sex.
AND WE HAVE NO CLUE.
And its not like we take things out of context or wrong on purpose, we take it wrong because we have no choice.
Its a difference of perspective.
Lets call it the Penis Perspective.
Having a penis is like having a best friend that your parents hate. He gets you in trouble, leaves you hanging sometimes, but every now and then, he comes up with something really cool.
But we can talk about masturbation later.
When a guy is in an environment where he thinks he might have a shot at getting laid, which pretty much means that he is awake and in the vicinity of a woman, his penis begins filtering everything he hears and understands.
Its like being drunk on a liquor called horny.
Yes, its that sad and primitive.
So taking things the wrong way is not a choice, its the only option.
The only one we have.
Guys are the epitome of what your mom use to say.
“If they didn’t care, they wouldn’t say anything.”
That’s true, but care means “Viewed as fuckable” (For the record, I wanted to leave Fuckable out. However, the friend in question loved it and declared it “Word of the Day” So it stays.)
Her other comment was that she was in a place right now that she only wanted some “Me attention”. But, all she seemed to be getting was the “Fuckable attention”.
Its about fifty-fifty in that half the men out there are capable of both types of attention. Unfortunately, the other half can only achieve the “Fuckable attention”.
And theres no way to tell ahead of time.
But, if you are hetero, it is the only game in town.
The only alternative would be to get a gay male friend for the “Me attention” and a high end marital aid with attachments in order to get your “Fuckable” on.
My advice usually sucks, so I normally keep it to myself, but I advised her to go out and play the game her way.
Because dangling the “Fuckable” carrot can get a lot of “Me attention.”
In the Texas Hold-Em game of sex, being a woman is like always having a pair of pocket aces.
For a man to have sex, he just needs to find a woman to say yes. A woman just needs to say yes.
I heard two women in Starbucks the other day, whispering.
Whispering means dirty, and I know this, so I do the discrete adjusting for better listening.
One of the women was complaining that, since her break up, she hadn’t had sex in months and missed it.
That amazes me. All she has to do is walk up to a guy, pretty much any guy in a bar, and ask him to go home for some “No strings attached” play time.
And for those reading this that are saying “My man would never do that”. Yes he would and lets not lie to each other here.
I’m just trying to help.
A woman could walk up to 5 different men in a bar and ask them to go have sex and most likely 5 out of 5 would green light it.
However, a man could walk up to 5 different women and ask the same.
Mace is usually involved at this point.
Not that I have ever done this, but when one of the 5 does say yes?
Its like magic.